grandad kit

Thank you for reading my blog. If you have difficulty seeing your grandchildren, or have any views about my situation, I would welcome your messages by e-mail through this blog site. If you wish, just use a first name or a nickname and your identity will be protected, like mine – “Grandad Kit.”

Dear “Tom”

Let's say goodbye for a while

You are now four years old. I am your other grandfather, the one you have just met, but only the once. At the moment, it looks highly unlikely that we will ever see you again, but whatever happens please believe that I love you dearly and always will. You are my flesh and blood, and always will be. We will meet again one day, I am sure. I am writing this daily "blog" to you to make up for the fact that I can't speak to you right now. I hope that one day you will be able to read this.

I'm pretty busy now as I've got a book to finsih by the end of this month. After that, we start a new chapter - in my case, a new book - and I've ben thinking it's getting to the point where I need to bring this chapter of our lives to a close as well. I've done my best over the past year to put down my thoughts on paper, putting down what I would have liked to say to you if you and I had been a proper Grandad and Grandson, as Nana Ann and I have always fervently wished but it was not to be.

And it's not juts because this particular "blog" is coming to an end, although I'm sure I will start a new one, but it will be on a differenmt subject. You see, I think at present I've said everything I could possibly say to you. Without proper contact and real knowledge of what you are doing, it's all in a vacuum. I still think it's been a very valubale hting to do, it has helped me immensely, and I still hope very much you will read it all some day whether or not it come out in a book (!) But I think I'm starting to repeat myself, and it's time to move on. Hopefully we can have a real dialogue one day.

I think we'll give it one more try with your Mam and then leave it either for her to thaw a little or for you to grow up and come looking for us. Wouldn't that be fantastic. You see, for any relationship to work, there has to be someone willing on both sides. From our one visit to see you a few weeks ago, it was all to obvious that your Mam and Dad just don't want anything to do with us. Fortunately, we do have other relatives who do care about us, and we are only human. You can only take so much rejection.

That one visit was a blessing for us. You are a lively, intelligent lad who clearly enjoys life and is curious about the world. That's a great start. We don't want to burden you with the silly arguments that adults get themselves into, at your age that would not be right. So carry on enjoying life and if and when you ever do ask about us, at least you will know that we do care for you and always will.

But I'll keep my letters going for another week or so.

Love from

Grandad Kit and Nana Ann